Part 2: How Suppressed Patterns Shape Our Lives (and Bodies)

If you’ve ever felt restless in moments of stillness or had a hard time feeling safe in your own body, this series was written for you.

In Part 1, we explored how a pattern of constant scanning, doing, and staying mentally busy isn’t necessarily anxiety, but a learned survival strategy.

When our environment felt unpredictable or emotionally unsafe growing up, our bodies developed habits to track every move, tone, or unspoken cue in order to stay protected.

This state of constant alertness was not a personal failure. It was an intelligent and a brilliant way your system learned to adapt.

But now, as adults, that same pattern often gets in the way of what we truly long for: presence, clarity, ease, and a deeper and authentic connection with oneself and others.

So let’s go deeper.

How Old Patterns Distort Our Truth and Behavior

When we don’t feel safe to be still, our truth gets filtered through the lens of survival. We make decisions not from alignment, but from fear. We say yes when we mean no. We people-please. We over-analyze, over-offer, or stay small to avoid disapproval. We try to “earn” love or belonging by staying one step ahead.

This distortion happens quietly. You might:

• Struggle to trust your own decisions

• Feel unsure about what you really want

• Bounce between self-doubt and over-control

• Avoid stillness or silence, even when you crave rest

Over time, this leads to exhaustion, not just physical, but mental-emotional and spiritual. It becomes harder to connect with joy, spontaneity, or creativity. Life feels muted or heavy and purpose feels distant and lost.

How These Patterns Show Up in the Body

Using insights from Meta-Medicine (a body-mind approach to healing), here’s how these old coping strategies might show up physically:

• Tension in the left shoulder or neck: Often linked to the burden of unexpressed emotions or the fear of being truly seen.

• Lower back or hip tightness (especially right to left shift): May reflect hesitation in stepping fully into a new identity or direction.

• Digestive discomfort or shallow breathing: The nervous system staying on high alert, preparing for “what’s next” instead of resting.

• Solar plexus tightness: Holding power for others, or a belief that safety comes from controlling outcomes.

• Persistent muscular tension (especially in the shoulders, jaw, or upper back): Tension disguised as strength, a subconscious attempt to hold it all together, often rooted in hyper-vigilance and the belief that safety depends on never letting your guard down.

These aren’t random aches, symptoms or fatigue, they’re invitations from your body to look at, and transform. Your body is wise. It remembers what your mind has suppressed.

What Helps Us Begin to Release These Patterns

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach. But true healing is never just cognitive, it must include the body. It also asks for emotional honesty, compassionate witnessing, and the courage to stay present with what arises, even when it’s uncomfortable.

And here’s the most important part: transformation is possible. These patterns are not permanent AND they can shift, soften, and release when we meet them with breath, movement, and presence. (psst - that's what we do in Sacred Start 💖)

Below are a few simple, embodied ways to begin dissolving these patterns:

1. Breath anchoring

   • Place one hand on your chest and one on your belly.

   • Inhale gently through the nose for 4 counts, pause, then exhale slowly for 6.

   • Say softly: “I do not need to hold this anymore.”

2. Movement to completion

   • If you feel stuck, notice where the sensation is in your body.

   • Let your body move intuitively; open your chest, step forward, lean back, as if finishing a movement that was paused long ago.

   • Your body often knows what gesture was interrupted or what breath wasn't completed.

3. Journaling prompts

   • “What am I afraid might happen if I truly let go?”

   • “What belief and/or what behaviour did I adopt to feel safe?”

   • “What truth am I now ready to allow?”

4. Recognize the body’s timeline

   • Healing isn’t linear. It’s layered. And sometimes slow.

   • Your breath may not always feel calm, that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.

   • Progress is often felt as subtle shifts: more space, less urgency, a moment of stillness that didn’t feel unsafe.

Personal Note

I’ve lived all of this. My own lower back pain, the deep ache in my hips, the scoliosis… they weren’t just structural issues. They were messages. My body was whispering what my mind had forgotten, that I was safe and that I was allowed to rest. Allowed to feel. Allowed to stop holding it all. And now, it’s what I help others do.

Ready to go deeper?

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You’re not broken. You’re becoming aware. And the more you meet yourself in truth, the more your life begins to reflect that alignment.

Coming Next in Part 3

In the final part of this series, we’ll explore how to create a deeper sense of inner safety—without constant vigilance or self-control. You’ll receive simple, embodied tools to support presence and trust in yourself.

Whether you continue through Sacred Start, an Oversoul Reflection, or your own gentle awareness, remember this: Stillness isn’t about stopping. It's about letting your breath come home.

You’re not broken. You’re unwinding from patterns that once protected you. And you’re doing beautifully. 💛

Julie

xo